Tuesday, March 31, 2009

Life Events Will Converge: Fortify Yourself Today

Converge is defined as to tend to meet in a point or a line, incline toward each other, like lines that are not parallel. I am talking about those kinds of things that make us say, "It's just one thing after another, now what, something else, what next, I can't take anything else, I can't make it, I just can't bear something else." Ever said those words before? I know I have.

One of my many life convergence moments was a serious health diagnosis, being harassed and pushed out at a job, a dying parent, an absent spouse who was forced to stay in a foreign country apart from me due to legal issues, buying a house and having to leave my dying parent for a job in another state.

This is not to say, "My hurt and ouch is worse than yours, or yours was worse than mine." The point is that no matter who you are, life is going to happen. We will have moments of pure joy and exhaltation and moments when we feel like all we can do is go in the bathroom stall and sit and cry for a few moments or want to remain there for days and hours.

It's not what happens to you, it's what you do, how you react. If you fortify yourself today with faith, with good food and love for yourself, when something happens, as in a life event, you will be ready. Be ready for what?

It doesn't mean you won't cry. Because you will.

It doesn't mean you won't feel like giving up. Because you may want to give it. Wanting and doing are two different things.

It doesn't mean that you won't want to escape. Who wants to stay inside a house that feels like it's falling down around you and the walls are closing in around you?

It doesn't mean that you will have a smile on your face and grin and bear it. You may not. But you can throw those shoulders back and keep on stepping.

It doesn't mean that you will be able to give to others during the whole period. You may not. Or, you may be able to focus on someone else and get your mind off of you. I don't know.

What it means is that inspite of what is happening, no matter how painful the situation, no matter how difficult it is, no matter how dark it seems or how bleak and weak the light at the end of the tunnel is...or even if there doesn't seem to be ANY LIGHT at the tunnel

....If you KNOW who you are, You won't give up. It means that you won't turn on yourself and say it's your fault. You won't say you aren't worth it and you deserve to be experiencing what you are experiencing. You will not quit. You may get weary and you may get tired. But you will not quit. When you know who you are and love yourself, you will KNOW that quitting is not an option. You will know that you can and will see the light at the end of the tunnel. You know that
you will make it to that sunny side and feel the warmth of the sun on your beautiful hued skin.

There are two things that you should never forget. The first is that, life is going to happen. The second thing that you should never forget is that you are big enough and powerful enough to make it through- SUCCESSFULLY.

Fortify yourself today. Focus on yourself and your needs. Lavish yourself with authentic love and attention. Get to know who you are. Get to know you. So when life comes barrelling through skidding on two tires and tipped over like an out of control tractor truck at top speed, and just seeming to be out of control, coming at you with a noisy, stinking tire burning slide faster than you can blink, YOU WILL be ready.

Even if that truck of life takes you off the set, 'for eva', up until that point, you would have lived authentically, and fully and with no regrets. You would have fortified yourself for whatever life had or has to offer.

Start today as you never know what tomorrow will bring. It is not about living in fear of tomorrow, but living confidently, authentically, fully: BEING YOURSELF.

You will be taken care of no matter what happens. In the least, do your part and provide some of that care today, for yourself. You have all that you ever need. Keep that at the forefront of your mind. So when life converges, you can go through all the changes and say what you got to say, but you will keep on stepping and come out on the other side literally and figuratively.

For you, the convergence of life events will not be steel against fragile bones and weak flesh. It will be like iron and fire. You will be fortified and better than before, a magnificent sword that is formed and worked by the fire of the convergence of life events, only to be made unbreakable as you cool down and work your way through it.

Magnificence and might, that is what true beauty is all about. Strength comes bit by bit. Beautify yourselves bit by bit. Embrace who you are and you'll make it through.


Anonymous said...

very insightful and healthy advice. Thank you.

Afia said...

That was such an inspirational post. I needed that and I thank you for these words. It came at the right time. They truly do mean something.

ChocolateOrchid said...

Great post that was right on time!
Thanks for the positive inspiration!

Laquita said...

Great post - as always very inspiratonal :o)

Always One said...

Much needed. I'm going to have have to share this post with some folks.Thanks!